5 Reasons to Rethink Mother’s Day Plans

1. Expectations are always high for some quality time over a delicious meal, but it is virtually impossible on a day that “everyone and their mother” goes out to eat.

2. Servers and most other restaurant professionals consider Mother’s Day “Black Sunday.” Doesn’t that sound inviting? I’m sure a lot of restaurant workers have/are moms and would love to spend time with their families, too!

3. Long lines, wait lists, commotion, parking woes, mediocre food, and lackluster service do not make for an awesome, relaxing day.

4. Most moms at virtually any stage of motherhood would probably rather kick their feet up and have YOU wait on them all day, rather than some stranger in a restaurant.

5. Your mom just wants to hear from you, hopefully hang out with you, have a conversation with you, and wrap her arms around you if she can. Presents and flowers are a nice gesture, but going through the hustle and bustle of another Mother’s Day Brunch isn’t the only way to show you care.

Here is the secret to a stress-free Mother’s Day (at least for Mom!): Get/make her a sappy card with a handwritten note, make her a nice meal, cater to her, and then do the dishes. You might have to put in a little extra effort, but the payoff will be worth it!

I’m sure many of you noted the social media campaigns to reconsider shopping on Thanksgiving or Black Friday last year. To shed light on the intensified level of consumerism, shoppers were encouraged to stay home with their families so retail workers could also be home with theirs.

It did not stop the teeming masses from bargain hunting on Thanksgiving Day or Black Friday, but it did bring awareness to the issue of fairness for retail workers. Obviously, not everyone can have every holiday off- the world does not stop turning for a stuffed turkey with a side of gratitude and family angst.

But, it does shed some light on the plight of the hospitality professionals who trudge through Mother’s Day, overworked and overwrought. One could argue: “it’s their job, at least they make tips, it’s just a made-up holiday, it’s good money for the restaurants etc…” However, I can personally attest to some real horror stories of Mother’s Day antics by customers that left at least one of my colleagues in tears.

Battered by the onslaught of loving children yearning to show their moms some love through a family meal, waitstaff can be the obvious scapegoat when things go horribly wrong. Because restaurants can likely turn over double the amount of tables on a busy day like Mother’s Day, not every establishment is equipped to handle the deluge. Some restaurants do it well, but not many!

That being said, if you LOVE to go out on Mother’s Day, that’s fine and maybe I’m wrong. Then again, this is the clarion call of someone who has been in the hospitality business for a long time. I just wonder if all the hullabaloo is all really worth it for both moms and restaurant workers…

by LizaMarie Parker